Updated September 2017:
A while back, I had a major life change that forced me to grow in ways I never imagined I could. During the process, I received worlds of wisdom and support from the people around me and I started paying much more attention to the insight I was collecting along the way. I couldn’t possibly keep it all to myself, so I started this blog as a way to record my growth and share my observations. Ideally, I hope my experiences will resonate with others in the same situation. Or maybe I’m just writing in the dark? Either way, it’s been an amazing journey so far and I am thrilled to keep it moving.
And, in the spirit of keeping it real, here is the first welcome message I ever published. It still makes me smile, and even though I’ve come so far, I keep it as a reminder of Why I’m Here:
October 2016:
Divorce is a bitter pill… especially if you are the one who “didn’t even see it coming.” It sends your world into a tailspin and causes you to rethink, well…..EVERYTHING.
I am about 3 months into my separation and dealing with all of the physical and emotional logistics that mire the process. Yet, in parallel to being 3 months into the severance of myself and married life, I am also 3 months into a process of self-examination and discovery that frankly, excites me beyond anything I ever dreamed possible. I spent 10 years in a marriage that started out promising and lost its steam somewhere along the way. I am not here to bash my ex, (we’re filing him under “some relationships just don’t work out”) but what this process has revealed to me thus far is that I allowed too much of myself to hide beneath the layers upon layers of ceremony and expectation that accompany marriage in my circles. I allowed myself to put the most vibrant and creative and liberated parts of me on the back burner to make my relationship work. Of course, I wasn’t aware that I was doing it. I was pursuing what I wanted at the time — a marriage with the man I loved and a family. And by the grace of God, I got exactly what I wanted… and you know what? I wouldn’t change a thing.
Being married to my ex was at times wonderful until it wasn’t, but it was young love and now it is good learning. Having my children was the most fulfilling experience of my life, and still is every day. They are a gift and they are the greatest strength and motivation that any mother could ask for.
Divorce truly is a bitter pill to swallow, but I am committed to chasing it down with something that is both sweet and savory — self-love and the freedom to finally write the story my way.
Welcome to All the Better Now
